A new new

Dear the pending mother of two,

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You wonder how can you do this with more.

It’s hard enough with one.

How can I add to the hard?

Where’s the room?

How will I cope?

I know you do, because I’ve been there.

And this is what I want to tell you.

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You do get thrown into the deep end of postpartum again.

There’s such a newness of everything, even though you’ve been there before.

A new little person to get to know.

A new body to learn to love.

A new life as a family of four to adjust to.

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It’s a new new.

And walking this territory can all feel a little overwhelming at times.

A little hard.

A little like you have no idea what you are doing.

And there will be tears, and cold tea, and forgotten dates.

And that’s normal.

Because you have never done this before.

Remember that ok?

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But that’s only part of it.

There is so much more to this new new.

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There’s the additional love that fills you, your home, your life and all those empty spaces you didn’t even know were there.

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There’s a growing bond between two of your favourite people that will leave you feeling completely and utterly speechless because no words can possibly describe how amazing it is, or how amazing they are.

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There’s even more for you and your husband to spend your never enough time talking, smiling and scrolling over. You may feel further apart, but you are brought closer than ever. Truly.

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There’s the realisation that fully leaning into what works for you as a mother is the only thing worth spending your now halved energy on. And it’s freeing.

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There’s the nights and days that are filled with the best kind of chaos. The chaos that always sees through the tired, and remembers only the beauty. Because it is beautiful, so beautiful.

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And there’s the old new that helps you with the new new. And eventually it’s not so new anymore. It’s your new normal. And you wonder what you did with the time you had with one.

But you wouldn’t go back.

Not a chance.

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So pending mother of two, please don’t worry.

The best is waiting for you.

Truly.

Remember that ok?